Religious Quandary

I know it's not just in Judaism this happens, but in all religions. Everyday events are explained as being for our ultimate benefit and as coming directly from G-d.

I tend to find that I'm happier when I view everything in this light, knowing that challenges are for my growth and trying to find the positive wherever I can.

But sometimes this all gets confusing and, unfortunately, kind of leaves a person feeling somewhat unfulfilled by the religious questions at hand.

Here's my example...

There's a very nice woman at our shul whose mother just died. The funeral was Friday and I wanted very badly to go, but a lot of things went wrong:

I got a late start getting ready, ND's diaper change went poorly with messy results, then she wanted to feed later than I had hoped, my car was snowed-in and I had to manipulate it a lot to get it out, and then on the way to the funeral I spaced out and took at least 3 wrong turns.

It occurred to me that I could easily apply one of two different standard scripts to the scenario.

Script 1: Clearly these obstacles came directly from G-d as a warning that I should not go and that, in fact, by giving up and staying home I could avoid some terrible disaster.

Or

Script 2: Clearly these obstacies came directly from G-d as an opportunity to prove my commitment to doing this wonderful mitzvah of comforting the bereaved and escorting the dead to burial.

In the first scenario, G-d's message would be to give up. In the second, to proceed forward no matter what.

What do you do with faith at a moment like this?

For the record, I did get to the funeral, but an hour late, missing the entire ceremony and arriving just in time to see many other red-eyed and emotional members from our shul filing out. Who knows if I avoided any disasters or not. And I never even spoke to the bereaved. I'm hoping to visit during this shiva week instead. So was it worth it? Don't know. Probably never will know. At least I learned I should try to leave earlier for things like this. But I've been taught that lesson before and haven't learned it clearly enough yet.